tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44215907276631206732024-03-20T06:31:15.414-07:00a fusion of influencesrayana@haremhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07062241458289442237noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4421590727663120673.post-57207824515473749232011-05-02T04:51:00.000-07:002011-05-02T04:51:02.246-07:00The basic about basics<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Now that we have fast forwarded into winter, we realize that warmth and comfort are key to survive this cold. Comfort foods , comfortable clothes, comfort surroundings....what else beats sitting around a fire place on your Persian rug, sipping something warm, surrounded with loved ones and good company? This ‘comfort’ need led me to briefly share our 6 human needs on a physical level:</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Certainty</span></b> - too much of certainty can lead to boredom, rigidness and inflexibility.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Variety </span></b>– to be kept in balance as too much, can be overwhelming.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Significance </span></b>– to feel significant we have this tendency to distinguish ourselves.....most cases we get so carried away that we lose ourselves in the ‘me and I’ syndrome which further leads to feeling unconnected.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Love and connection</span></b> – the need to feel too much love and connection could lead to co-dependence and lack of self esteem.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Growth </span></b>– one of the highest needs, we all need this!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Contribution</span></b> – one of the highest needs, YES!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Can you think of a situation right now which is not going very well.....can you check if your needs are being met in this situation?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Rank your needs in order of importance.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Meanwhile some winter basics @ Harem............</span></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">angora and wool coat blend with leather detail R950<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">velvet duffel coat R950<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">hand knitted wool shawl R580<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">sheepskin boots suede and leather outer. handcrafted in south africa R950<br />
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My next challenge is the neckline. Having adopted a modest style of dress and being the momma, the plunging neckline definetley a no-no. I find it tricky as have to get it just right, not too low, neither too high as Im not a nun after all. Now the funny part, what goes over the tummy? Nothing too fitted, else the muffin top starts showing, nothing loose else I might look like Im carrying the 6th and most unwanted child. The winner is everything cut on the bias, unstructured even uneven at the bottom can work. THis all deceives the eye as to the actual shape of the bodice. <br />
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No fancy sleeves, no bell sleeves, no sleeveless, no batwing, only a demure fitted three quarter or full sleeve.<br />
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And this is just dressing the top half????? Oh and did I mention, only natural and soft to the touch fabrics will do?<br />
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A few top ideas from Harem:<br />
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silk top R580<br />
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<ol><li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>If you are ever inclined to think you got a raw deal in life, realize that you may have deliberately designed it that way yourself.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Don't spend your time comparing your life to others. Their life is their life. Your life is your life. Make the most of it.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Live in the moment. It's all you have. You can't change the past and the future only exists as a concept.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Practice inner calmness. When you feel anger or rage building inside, do a mental count to fifty while thinking about how inconsequential your cause of frustration is when considering the bigger picture.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Learn to see the funny side. Laughter is, very simply, the best medicine!</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>If life feels tedious and the routine is getting you down, look up at the night sky, drink in the spectacular wonder of the cosmos and ask yourself whether your creator designed life to be tedious or whether it is of your own making. Then take action to change your life.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Ask yourself what it is you need most from life right now. Chances are it'll be something you have least of. To be needy is to be out of balance.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>When feeling fearful, uncertain or overwhelmed have the courage to take any small action. You'll immediately feel better.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Don't pursue money without knowing very clearly why. Money is a wonderful commodity when you use it to bring more joy to your life. Money for money's sake is meaningless.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Just as no two human beings have the same fingerprints, so each of us has a unique outlook on the world. Learn to tolerate and appreciate diverse perspectives.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Live authentically. You cannot derive fulfillment from pretending to be someone you are not. </strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>When you encounter a problem think about how this represents an opportunity, embrace it and be thankful for it.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>When characteristics of other people annoy you, search to find where those characteristics exist within you.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Take plenty of time to recharge and reflect. Frequent time-outs are what bring meaning and enjoyment to life.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Your thoughts are the most powerful creative forces you possess. Don't waste them by focusing on what's not possible or undesirable in your life.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>If there's something you really feel like doing, do it, now, before the opportunity passes by. </strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Trust your inner being and your inner voice. It is pure, unpolluted by the views of others, miscommunications, limiting beliefs and worst fears. </strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Confront the fears that hold you back, head on and soon your hesitant, frustrated nature will give way to an adventurous, joyful nature.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Put yourself first, not in a selfish way, but in a way that appreciates how much more you can be and do for the world if you cultivate your own strengths and abilities.</strong></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #004d91; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>Practice the three Gs: gratitude, graciousness and giving, to make your life a special one.</strong></span></span></span></li>
</ol><span style="color: black; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace;"><strong>In my first blog you wrote down 50 things that make you happy. I do hope that you reached at least 20 and that you are putting it into practise. 50 seems so many as we more focused on what we do not have instead of what is right in front of us and has been all the time!!!!</strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "Calibri", "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-ZA; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-ZA;"><em>SoyLites Moisturising Candle has been nominated as a finalist in the Fairlady Consumer Awards: Health & Wellness Category</em><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /></span>rayana@haremhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07062241458289442237noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4421590727663120673.post-53734801383945085552011-02-16T05:14:00.000-08:002011-02-17T00:47:54.818-08:00Awake in February<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">1 FEBRUARY 2011</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I guess I’m always slow when it comes to understanding new year and all the hype that goes around it. Perhaps it’s the denial or the disbelief that time is indeed going by so fast……or it can be procrastination, laziness, not living in the now etcetera. Phew we can be so hard on ourselves!!! Does it matter, we are here now and hooray for that. Happy February everyone!!!!</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/" name="_GoBack"></a><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Yes this is the day I choose to start throwing and sharing ideas on paper…..or is it called blogging? Ok well the last time I attempted this I was very busy with my coaching diploma and was inspired to share my insights and findings with all. Life then happened and a few months down the line, I have my very own clothing boutique called Harem. This is a meeting place for women to come and try all beautiful clothes and textures with jewellery handpicked from various places of the world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So this time around, I am going to attempt to combine fashion and coaching. Why? We have evolved to a state where we realize that it’s not just about how we look but also about how we feel. </span></span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">We all want happiness and contentment. Is it the latest LOUIS VITTON handbag that can make you happy or wearing a pair of sexy Manola Blahniks? What about an experience? A walk in the park or a hug from a long last friend………….?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I need for you to grab a pen/paper and jot down 50 things that makes you happy. Do not think too long about it as it can be real simple like taking a hot bath, reading a book or cooking up a storm. Stick it up some place visible and start ticking each day……..enjoy!!</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Now, what are you wearing in all of these states....? I have a section of my closet that houses my ‘happy clothes’ and another that houses my ‘stay in bed not up to facing the world today’ clothes. So today, I share one of my ‘happy clothes” item with you from Harem. It is a Vietnamese silk tunic/kaftan, so soft to the touch, in fuschia pink that makes me feel all girlish and covers all the sins. It can be belted, worn over drawstring pants and donned with lots of interesting jewellery pieces. So whether I go for a look of less is best or load it with accessories, it works either way and I am also expressing my state of mind!!! What does your ‘happy clothes’ look and feel like?</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt;"><br />
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we explore 21 tips to more joy in our next blog.........</div>rayana@haremhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07062241458289442237noreply@blogger.com0